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Quotes on Kindness

Someone sent this to me and it resonated for a few reasons.

Firstly, Kindness is my surname.  As a result I am often asked, ‘So, are you always kind?’ to which I answer, “I try to be, but sometimes I’m human”.

Secondly, I grew up with the quote: “No act of Kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted”.  Whilst this framed quote mainly hung in a broken frame on the garage wall; I’ve also carried it with me for the last 20 years.  I am often helping out friends with their projects, businesses idea and all sorts of other things and often it feel like more trouble than it’s worth.  But then again life is kind to me.  Maybe we’re too used to shopping and the exchange of goods that we expect to be paid back by the person we helped rather than by life itself.The third reason I like these quotes and the reason I wish to share them is that they are true and convey and important message.  The world needs to give kindness more importance, consideration and time.  And as a Kindness I too could do with some of that!

Kindness Quotes:

  Abraham Joshua Heschel:

When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.


Albert Schweitzer:

Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.


Amelia Earhart :

No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.


Arthur Dobrin:

There is always a way to be honest without being brutal.


Barbara De Angelis:

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.


Benjamin Jowett:

We cannot seek or attain health, wealth, learning, justice or kindness in general. Action is always specific, concrete, individualized, unique.


Blaise Pascal:

Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.


Charles Kuralt:

The everyday kindness of the back roads more than makes up for the acts of greed in the headlines.


D. H. Lawrence:

The only justice is to follow the sincere intuition of the soul, angry or gentle. Anger is just, and pity is just, but judgement is never just.


Ella Wheeler Wilcox:

The truest greatness lies in being kind, the truest wisdom in a happy mind.


Ella Wheeler Wilcox:

So many gods, so many creeds,
So many paths that wind and wind,
While just the art of being kind
Is all the sad world needs.


Eric Hoffer:

Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.


Frederick W. Faber:

Kindness has converted more sinners than zeal, eloquence or learning.


George Eliot:

It is good to be helpful and kindly, but don’t give yourself to be melted into candle grease for the benefit of the tallow trade.


Goethe:

Kindness is the golden chain by which society is bound together.


H.H. the Dalai Lama:

When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.


H.H. the Dalai Lama:

Responsibility does not only lie with the leaders of our countries or with those who have been appointed or elected to do a particular job. It lies with each of us individually. Peace, for example, starts within each one of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us.


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H.H. the Dalai Lama:

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.


Harold Kushner:

When you carry out acts of kindness you get a wonderful feeling inside. It is as though something inside your body responds and says, yes, this is how I ought to feel.


Henry David Thoreau:

The only way to tell the truth is to speak with kindness. Only the words of a loving man can be heard.


Henry James:

Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind.


James M. Barrie:

Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.


Jane Nelson:

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?


Jean Baptiste Henry Lacordaire:

We are the leaves of one branch, the drops of one sea, the flowers of one garden.


Joseph Addison:

Good nature will always supply the absence of beauty; but beauty cannot supply the absence of good nature.


Lao-Tse:

In this world, there is nothing softer or thinner than water. But to compel the hard and unyielding, it has no equal. That the weak overcomes the strong, that the hard gives way to the gentle — this everyone knows. Yet no one asks accordingly.


Lao-Tse:

Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profundity.
Kindness in giving creates love.


Leo Buscaglia :

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.


Marc Estrin:

Kindness trumps greed: it asks for sharing. Kindness trumps fear: it calls forth gratefulness and love. Kindness trumps even stupidity, for with sharing and love, one learns.


Maya Angelou :

One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.


Mother Teresa:

Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless.


Pearl S. Buck:

I feel no need for any other faith than my faith in the kindness of human beings. I am so absorbed in the wonder of earth and the life upon it that I cannot think of heaven and angels.


Philo:

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.


Rabindranath Tagore:

Men are cruel, but Man is kind.


Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Life is not so short but that there is always time enough for courtesy.


Ralph Waldo Emerson:

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.


Ralph Waldo Emerson:

We must be as courteous to a man as we are to a picture, which we are willing to give the advantage of a good light.


Ralph Waldo Emerson.:

Life is short, but there is always time enough for courtesy.


Samuel Johnson:

Always set high value on spontaneous kindness. He whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship of his own accord will love you more than one whom you have been at pains to attach to you.


Scott Adams:

Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.


Seneca:

Wherever there is a human being, there is a chance for a kindness.


Talmud:

Deeds of kindness are equal in weight to all the commandments.


Theodore Rubin:

Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.


Thomas Berry:

If the earth does grow inhospitable toward human presence, it is primarily because we have lost our sense of courtesy toward the earth and its inhabitants.


Willa Cather:

When kindness has left people, even for a few moments, we become afraid of them as if their reason had left them. When it has left a place where we have always found it, it is like shipwreck; we drop from security into something malevolent and bottomless.


William Menninger:

Six essential qualities that are the key to success: Sincerity, personal integrity, humility, courtesy, wisdom, charity.


William Wordsworth:

The little unremembered acts of kindness and love are the best parts of a person’s life.

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Better Values Increase Happiness

Gratitude Improves Attitude

While Inglehart does not profess to know the true secrets of happiness, he says that this most recent study has made the picture a bit clearer. In his opinion, benevolence and expressions of gratitude appear to be subtle but powerful ways to bring happiness into one’s life and to extend it. Religion and solidarity in the community play a big role in this, he says, but any positive belief system can help. “Latin America seems to understand this,” he says.

“In the old days I would have told you to work hard and save your money,” says Inglehart. “It’s different today. I just haven’t nailed it down yet.

This is the third and last post in this vein.

I’m a real fan of happiness and I get excited when people are able to understand, measure and work to promote ‘happiness’. I’ve often thought that if we could isolate the gene that makes dogs so happy (especially the Cocker Spaniel) then we’d be onto something. Surely being happy (or deliriously happy in the spaniels case) is more important that looking young? No, apparently not.

Happiness has a lot to do with values; freedom of choice, gender equality, tolerance and not simply wealth. It’s great that scientists are now able to measure happiness. In fact it’s got the stage that you can even study happiness at Harvard.

Are we, the people, really happier or are we simply giddy with relief that happiness is finally being taken seriously?

Either way, the 2008 World Values Survey is an interesting read with some valuable insights.

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The (New) World’s Happiest Coutries

I’ve always felt that money and happiness are not symbiotic. Otherwise playing on the beach, walking in the hills or meeting up with friends would be taxed. Thankfully, for now, they are not!

Interestingly there is a measure for happiness (which I’m sure would make a great political manifesto) and the results make for some very interesting and unexpected reading…

The happiest countries in the world are an eclectic mix of Nordic, Alpine, Maritime, and Tropical. Curiously, some of these most cheerful places are characterized by high taxes, rugged terrain, poor weather, or low income. So what are they doing right?

Having a look at the top 10 countries on the list offers some clues.

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The World’s Best Places to Live 2009
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I like reviewing this kind of list and I think we all hope that we’ll be living in the No 1 city. Sadly I’m not. London is quite far down the list. Which is fine by me - any place not on a lake or by the sea should be way down the list!

The rankings are based on a point-scoring index, which sees Vienna score 108.6, and Baghdad 14.4. Cities are ranked against New York as the base city with an index score of 100. Mercer’s Quality of Living ranking covers 215 cities and is conducted to help governments and major companies place employees on international assignments.

The list of ‘World’s Best Places to Live’ is based on the Quality of Living but is that the same a Quality of Life. If I can afford a high quality of a life does that mean I’m happy. Well, no.

I stopped packing my bag and did a quick search for the world’s happiest places to live. Low and behold there a list for that too. Which, to my mind is a much more important list to get excited about.

At this point it’s worth remembering that both lists are just numbers fed into a machine. They don’t deal with the real issues of moving to live there - such as loss of family and friends, language barriers, cultural barriers and being an ‘alien’ as the US so graciously call a foreigner! (Hmmm. maybe that’s the route cause of Americas aggressive foreign policy. It’s a simple misinterpretation of what the rest of the world considers an alien to be.)

Anyway, these are lists meant to set the imagination running wild and to provoke discontentment around the world. So bear in mind that the grass is always greener at some level and that you can’t generalise about an individual. You decide where the best and happiest place is to live and only you!

The next post: The World’s Happiest Countries

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Pictures of every country in the World!
50 Things to Do Before You Die

I’m never sure about these lists - often they can be re-written, in this case - “Things to help you die before you’re 50!”

Anyway, if you need a few plans for your holidays, these are inspired. It really would take a long time to achieve them but that in itself is part of the achievement.

Read on…plan a little, rob a bank and you’re set. Life life, Love it!

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Brilliant!

Live Life, Love it!

This is what MyFriendsHotel.com is all about.

“World record breaker Mark Beaumont is cycling from Anchorage, Alaska, to Ushuaia in Southern Argentina.  Following the line of the mountain ranges which form the America Cordillera, he’ll climb the two highest peaks Mount McKinley and Aconcagua, on foot.”

He’s travelling with a BBC film crew but he’s ‘always’ on his bike. So does he miss out on the real country by not spending time with the people?

Obviously he does, but you can’t expect him to live there, and even then he’ll miss out on something else.  We pass through life as visitors and we make friends along the way.  I have great memories of people I’ve met for a handful of minutes whilst passing through their world.

Life is a journey and this is one that few people will ever manage.

As we say here: Live Life, Love It!